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The Truth Is….

May 16, 2011

I was working with a leader who had just taken a job with  lots of responsibility but very little structure or guidance.  She  was about to have a meeting with her staff for the first time.  “What should I say?” she asked me in a panic. “I have no idea  yet what I should be focusing on.” “Say that,” I replied. “It has  the benefit of being true. Explain that you are in the process of  figuring out priorities and would value their input.  Then do a  brainstorm. Not only will you get a sense of what they think  is important, but you will gain their trust that you care  enough  to ask.” She let out a huge sigh and replied, “That  feels just right.”

We all know the saying“The truth will set you free.” So  why is it that telling the truth can feel so risky? Why can’t we  just say, “Sorry, I can’t come to the meeting. I’m overcommitted.” Instead we invent a headache or  resentfully go. Instead of saying, “I can’t listen to you right now,” we snap at our kids and spouse.  Rather than an “I don’t know yet” to a business problem, we jump to decisions or blow a lot of  smoke.

Telling the truth can risky. We risk disapproval, even anger. But when we stand on the ground  of our truth, whatever that is, we create alignment with ourselves.  We gain the power of integrity.  And that is a mighty force that others can feel and respect even when they don’t like the message.


 


2 Responses to “The Truth Is….”

  1. Dianne Morris said:

    Hi MJ,
    I’m connected to you through Toni Littlestone.
    My website http://www.ZestNow.com for women 55 and forward provides information, resources and inspiration to help women to live their best lives at this period.

    Would you like to provide us with an article with a link back to your site? I thought that the subject of dealing with change is a critical one for women at this point in their lives.

    Thank you,
    Dianne Morris

  2. MJ Ryan said:

    Sure, email me at maryjaneryan@gmail.com and I will get you something just for you!